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Lets see .. You know .. I really need to keep a little pad of paper with me at all times because there are so many things I think.."Oh ! I should blog about that" and then I forget about them.. I'll try to remember

So things have been slow in the interesting love life department... but that could change really soon..

I got an emai from an old flame. K.. .. we're both single at the same time! I never thought that'd happen.. anyway we met up at 2:30am last saturday for pie at an all night family dinner and talked for a few hours.. It had been two years since we had seen eachother and there was a lot of catching up to do..

We also hung out on sunday.. got tea and humus and hung out around town..

I'm excited to see where it goes.. we shall seeeee

Left...Right..

I just started reading this book.. called Look Both Ways .. by Jennifer Baumgardner about bisexuality.. in the book she describes her first serious female attraction to a fellow intern at Ms magazine.. the two had become best friends, the kind of passionate best friends that are almost consumed with eachother...this happens from time to time in female relationships.. i've seen it.. i've been in them before i came out.. yadda yadda..anyways.. here is a bit of an exerpt that made me chuckle

"I wanted Anastasia and me to be best friends who were also sleeping together, but I wanted my straight identity, too. I wanted to date men, kiss men, hit on men, have sex with men. Men didn't feel wrong; it's just that Anastasia felt right, too."


also..

"take for example, how the character Phoee Buffay on Friends explains looking both ways in a song she wrote for children: "sometimes men love women/sometimes men love men/ and then there are bisexuals/ though some just say they're kidding themselves/ Lalalala lalala..." Less colorfully, Elizabeth Wurtzel put it to me like this: " You have to choose eventually, right?"

... On the contrary. What I'm asserting is that we are looing at bisexuality the wrong way, making the identity entirely dependent on someone rather than the bisexual person him- or herself. If I'm dating a man, I'm straight. If I'm dating a woman, I'm a lesbian. But sexuality is not who you sleep with, it's who you are. It doesn't change according to who is standing next to you"

"Homosexuality was invened by a straight world dealing with its own biseuality" - Kate Millett

Look Both Ways: Bisexual Politics

I really want to read this book..

get more info here

Last night I talked to my ex girlfriend J. for the first time in a long time..a month or two maybe. We actually had a really good conversation about school, work, and relationships....We also talked about stereotypes with gender and relationships.. I was talking to her about how.. after briefly dating the last girl I dated.. My stereotypes for women in relationships sort of shattered..

I had always thought.. OK.. with women you are guaranteed to have a romantic, nurturing, emotional partner. I was surprised to find that this isn't always the case.. as it wasn't the case with her. So J and I discussed that as a queer woman I'm attracted to women because I believe they will offer me these things.. yet at the same time I shouldn't limit myself considering there are men out there who could offer that as well.. .. meh who knows..

I prefer women but I try to remain open minded about who I may fall in love with..

Anyways J is doing good, the conversation was very satisfying.. She's happy and busy and doing well with school and activities.. She's in a relationship that has lasted 6 months.. I'm happy for her.. as much as I wanted her to be miserable after cheating on me.. I'm glad she can have a happy and healthy relationship now..