Ellen and McCain

Thanks Ellen!

Ellen and Senator John McCain Debate Gay Marriage



How can he honestly sit there.. and not understand?

One day.. Ooonnnee day

Sarah Palin...

So the media is buzzing with Sarah Palin, Republican Vice Presidential Nominee. And I'm having all sorts of mixed feelings about it.

She's a woman! YAY!
She's a republican. Ew
She's a mother! YAY!
She's conservative. Ew

She is getting a lot of flack for accepting the nomination because she's a mother of young children, one of which has down syndrome, another that is pregnant. But I keep thinking to my self... If this were a man, with a down syndrome child, and a pregnant 17 year old..No one would question their decision to run for VP. So.. kudos to Sarah P for running, I respect her for that.

What I don't respect is her social conservatism. While she has been quoted as saying she has "gay friends" she does not support gay marriage.


"Palin said she's not out to judge anyone and has good friends who are gay, but that she supported the 1998 constitutional amendment.

Elected officials can't defy the court when it comes to how rights are applied, she said, but she would support a ballot question that would deny benefits to homosexual couples.

"I believe that honoring the family structure is that important," Palin said.

She said she doesn't know if people choose to be gay. "

It's funny, as the areas resident lesbian, and a political one at that, I get a lot of people asking.."But don't you think she's hot?!" And I have to be honest.. YES.. Yes I think she's hot. I'll take a powerful woman in sexy glasses any day (insert Tina Fey).

But hot shouldn't decide the election.

So to all the lesbians out there that have the same weakness for a hot brunette in glasses.. Use your strength! Avoid eye glass contact! She may be hot, but she doesn't support you, so don't support her!

Lesbian Weddings

This is a little belated but I saw this the other day and it gave me chills. Congrats to Ellen and Portia here is a video about their wedding..




I want to get married!

Actually I brought the idea up to my mom the other day while applying makeup in the bathroom. I summoned her in and said I had something important to ask her. I always seem to do this.. ask her important things in the bathroom. She took her usual spot on the porcelain throne and looked up at me with those big brown "oh god..what now" mom eyes.

ME:"Soooooo lets say ...I wanted to get married.."
MOM:"mmmmmhmm"
ME:"to someone...like..The Girlfriend"
MOM:"mmhmmm.."
ME:"not now!not like this month or anything, not even this year, but one day!"
MOM:"uhh..huuuhhh.."
ME:"would you be supportive?"
MOM:"well.. sure"
ME:"i mean, would you help with the wedding..would you be there..would you pay for the food the open bar and dj?"
MOM:"..Um.. Yeah..Sure! I just.. don't want you rushing into anything..ok?"
ME:"I'm not! I'm not! I was just curious if you would be as supportive as you would if I was marrying a man"
MOM:"Can't we just all go to vegas?"
ME:"Um, no. I want everyone I've EVER MET to be there."
MOM"Oh GOD"

So, I don't know what that really means. I think when it happens, if it does (and I hope it does) my parents will really step up to the plate and be supportive. I'm sure of it. But they won't have to worry about it for a while. So says The Girlfriend.

I love her, I do. She's amazing. But she was married before, to a not so nice man. And having had that marriage under her belt puts a different spin on our future plans. She a little more cynical about dreamy plans than I would like. If we were to get married..she'd want something small and quiet.."I've already done a big wedding". That sort of puts a damper on things. I haven't "already done a big wedding". I haven't done all those things. I'm all dreamy in love and excited about spending my life with this girl. This is new to me, where she has already "been there, done that" and has seen it fail. I don't blame her for being guarded about our future after what she's been through, but it does pinch a little.

I just dedicated a whole post to marriage, I'm sure this will freak The Girlfriend out. Oh well, like she isn't used to me constantly talking about it anyways.

Ha

OMG

Ok Ok ok ..I can't even begin to detail just how excited I am.

Margaret Cho has a tv show coming to VH1
Seriously? Could life get any better?

I got to meet her 5 years ago! She signed my shirt! She one of my sheros! Seriously.. Amazing!

Go here to check out the supertrailer!

I'm Back.. I swear..

I want to be a good blogger.
Really I do.
I have so many funny stories to tell about my crazy dating life..and so much more.. yet I'm terrible at keeping this updated.

I think a lot of it has to do with a recent break up.. two months ago my darling girlfriend and I broke up.. I'll keep this short and sweet. She got cold feet about the degree of seriousness we were reaching. She broke my heart. I was a mess, but a healthy and positive mess. During this time apart. I decided to just remain positive, pine for her, but also experiment a little.

I was physically intimate with a man. Yes..no longer am I a gold star lesbian. Was it worth it? I don't know. I learned a lot about relationship dynamics and gender. Men are physically/sexually manipulating, where as women are more emotionally manipulative. Neither is better in my book. The sex part? Not as interesting and stimulating as I thou ht it'd be (i didn't have high hopes though). It was more or less an experiment, something I thought I'd try. I've always been sexually (but not emotionally) attracted to men (i hate that i have to label myself but that is how our society functions). So I thought.. ok, I'm single and a little emotionally distraught, I'll try this out. Well I tried it. I'm over it..end of story there.

This summer also was blessed with Katy Perrys hit single "I kissed a girl" which I am proud to report, opened a lot of straight girls up to the idea of kissing a girl. Insert ME. The areas resident lesbian. I have had a handful of straight girls interested in having a girl-girl kiss. Is this a pro or con to the song? Both! Fun kissing,and not so fun straight girl lusting. Actually though, it really has made for a fun and interesting summer, especially when there is drinking involved.

Forget about me though. I've seen many of my straight female friends locking lips this summer. I think they share mutual attractions. I mean, really, women are beautiful, women have enough sense to notice the beauty of other women. It really comes down to, "kissing girls is soooo nice! They're so soft!" I've heard this a lot lately. Well congrats to all my favorite straight women, you have experimented! Now, stop breaking all the poor lesbians hearts.

This whole.. bi curious awakening had a little bit of an effect of me. I had a short lived crush on the bi curious sister of my very best friend. We both realized it was a bad idea though, fun for week or so..but she likes boys.We both had broken hearts well, and it was nice for the two of us to have someone to talk to about it. We became really close as friends as a result. I'm a lucky girl.

Ok so a boy, random straight girl kisses, yadda yadda... I was still feeling completely empty after all of it. I missed my girlfriend. I was very much in love with her still. However, she came to visit about a month after the break up. We met for lunch and went shopping and everything was perfect. It was like we never broke up. We kissed.. We held hands. It was lovely. It left me with a lot of questions though. Fast forward another month. I went to visit her in her fabulous new adopted city and we spent an entire beautiful weekend together. She admitted to having cold feet. She apologized. She asked me to be her girlfriend.

We are back together and more in love than ever. Everyone kept using that cliche line. "if you love her let her go".. everyone said to be patient. They were right.
If it's meant to be, it'll be. Everything happens for a reason. And this.. made us stronger.

So from now on this blog will be filled with advice, lesbian related news, and the funny stories my girlfriend and I seem to be constantly creating.

Happy happy happy

I haven't updated in a whilel because i feel sort of guilty.. I'm not single anymore!

I'm in an amazing stable and strong relationship that I am so very proud of.. I'm the luckiest girl. I feel safe, loved, and comfortable. We're honest and give and recieve equally.. and things are just going really well.

We're already three hours apart but she'll soon be moving for a job that will make us five hours apart..I'm not looking forward to the distance but I'm really excited for her, a big city, a new job, a new place... a great place for me to visit.
The move has opened up some of my insecurity issues, but these are my own, and not hers, so I must deal with them and be stronger than my thoughts.

Other than that things really are great with us. Our friends like us, our families like us.. I couldn't ask for more.


In other news, Season 5 of the L Word has started.. it's already on episode three and I'm a little bummed that there hasn't been more sex.. ehhhh.. am I a perv? Probably.. but come on, we see enough heterosexual sex scenes..and we finally get a show for us and they're lacking on the good stuff. That's alright, I love the show so I shouldn't be complaining..

more later..

I survived

I survived meeting the parents! I was so nervous though! So nervous that I had to buy a new outfit and thank god I have stylist friends ..because I even had fabulous hair for the night.

I got there in the evening and met her parents when they got home from work.. her mom was quiet at first after a rough day... but it was fine. Then we had to rush out for a party and then dinner.. so I didn't get to spend much time talking with them. I did, however, sit and talk a little in the morning with crazy morning hair.. and they seemed adorable and friendly. And they apparently thought I was cute.

Sooo I survived, no reason to be as nervous as I was.. I'm sure I'll seem them soon during the holidays..

Jodie Foster Comes Out? Well it's about time.

Yay to Jodie Foster who kinda came out !

Christmas Party Date and Meeting the Parents

Well well.. Things with the new love interest are progressing well.

Unfortunately the distance is no fun, but we're making the best of it. We spent last weekend together and I even invited her as my date to my works christmas party. She still likes me after a couple drinks on an empty stomach induced a fabulous display of Soulja Boy's "Super Man" dance infront of the resturant.

My parents both really like her.. so much so they mention it often and ask questions about her and when they'll be seeing her next. My friends really like her too, and of course, so do I.

This friday I'll be meeting her parents, who she is sort of newly out to. I'm excited and nervous.. and I have no idea what to wear.

I'll update on how it goes though! :D

Everything Happens For A Reason....Right?

I swear.. I have some ironic luck.

I meet someone absolutely amazing, like no one I've ever met before..
and she's contimplating a move 6 hours away.

Of course it's way to soon in getting to know her to say.."Don't Move!" but I just have this feeling that if the move happens I'll be missing out on getting to know (that is in the context that I want) one of the most wonderful women I've ever met. But her opportunity to go is a good one, it'd be exciting, no doubt about it and I'm supportive! I am! I'm just going to be disappointed if it happens. But it's a maybe.. We'll see. I'm not trying to be a negative-nancy about the opportunity for her to move, really I'm not...I'm sure she knows this. I really think it'd be great for her. I just wish our timing was better.

What ever happens, happens. If it's meant to be it'll be...
Everything happens for a reason.
I just have to keep living by that.

Until she figures it out we're going to enjoy getting to know eachother and have fun, and that's really all that matters ....

Women like her seriously are a rarity, not just in the lesbian community but in general. In the michigan lesbian community however, she's a UNICORN... (a unicorn? yes.. a myth, a fairytale, rare, ect..ect..) attractive, kind, funny, selfless, funny, driven, happy.. I could rant forever about how wonderful she is but I'm sure you get the point.