Location.. Location Location

I'm growing increasingly frustrated with Michigan's lesbian scene. I've mentioned before that the scene is nothing to boast about. The lesbian community here is barely a community at all, and the majority that make up this "community" are either the stereotypical butch lesbian, or they are seriously lacking in culture (education, awareness of the world around them, ect..ect). This was made more clear to me recently when talking to my ex H.

H is soon to be graduating from college and recently went out to NYC for some job interviews. While staying there for the week she went to a few lesbian clubs and claimed that all the women were gorgeous and smart ..ect..ect. She even met a beautiful girl who she apparently hit it off with right away. We started talking about the girls here, the girls we've dated and met.. and how they compare to the girls that she met while living in NYC a couple summers ago and while she was there last week. We concluded that Michigan is just..not the place for girls like us.. to meet.. girls like us. But I'm wondering if that is the case in a majority of places that lacks a huge metropolitan center. So if anyone is reading this that has the same problem in a different state.. please let me know (so i can avoid the state completely haha).

Really.. I'm confident that I'll meet various women that will sweep me off my feet but is it going to happen here? I don't know. People show up right under your nose when you least expect it. After every failed relationship I've always thought "ok that was the last date-able lesbian in Michigan" and I find myself surprised every time I meet someone new that doesn't fit the Michigan Lesbian stereotype. But these girls are rare.. very rare. Would it change if I ever move for school or work?

I'm not saying I'm going to leave Michigan just because the lesbian scene sucks. I can just imagine. "Young Woman Leaves Michigan.. Not Because of its Economic State But Because of its Dating Scene" that would be a great op/ed article for the newspaper.


I think I'm so frustrated with it because I went to the local gay bar the other night with my best gay guy friend. We walked in.. and were easily the most attractive pair in the bar. All the women were stereotypical white trash, ghetto thug, or big and butch. There were maybe two women that didn't fit this description, I swear. The gay men in this town are the same.. unattractive, poorly educated, gross. I mean really, it's the only gay bar I've ever been to when country music is the song of choice during a drag show.. ew. But this is typical of my town which is why I've never really met someone around here and have always had long distance relationships with girls that live in other small towns or bigger cities. Long Distance Relationships... damn that's another post all on its own.